Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Love. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

Dating on a Budget



Being in a recession during your relationship can kind of…what’s the word I’m looking for…suck. But don’t fret, if you’re trying to save a few extra dollars and maintain a lively relationship there’s good news. You can actually do things yourself, stay in at the house, meticulously plan in advance, enjoy the outdoors and use what you got. Yes, really. It can be done. Here’s how:



Do It Yourself. Here’s an idea. Instead of going out to dinner, why don’t save yourself money and cook it yourself. I know. Crazy idea. If you don’t know what the hell you’re doing, grab your honey and cook together. It ends up being fun and funny – lots of inside jokes will be born – and you actually get exactly what you want to eat because you’re the one making it. And the groceries you’ll buy to make what you were going to order at that snobby downtown restaurant will cost you a fraction of what you were going to pay. Mention that to your honey and he’ll be all over the DIY dinner.


Be A Homebody. It doesn’t matter how big or small your place of dwelling is. If you keep it clean enough, invite people over. Usually when you get a group of people over, you can end up having a good time for free – or close to it. Have a game night. One of my favorite things to do is invite a group of friends over and play Taboo. One night we had about 20 people over in our one bedroom apartment playing Taboo until 2am. It was good times. You can do a movie night, watch the big game or have a themed dinner party (like Fiesta night!) Have certain people bring refreshments or make certain dishes since you’re supplying your house. A lot of the time, you end up having a much better time then getting all dolled up, paying $20 at some door to impress people you don’t even know.


Plan In Advance. Ok, I get it. You can’t stay in the house and do it yourself all the time. But for those times you do go out, make sure you plan. It’s a great way to avoid surprise expenses. Wanna see that new movie in theatres on Friday? Order your tickets online to avoid the long line when you get there. Make reservations, especially on weekends to avoid the wait. If you’re taking a trip, the earlier you get your tickets the cheaper they’ll be. It’s the same thing with tickets to a sporting event, concert or show – if you know about take advantage. Not only will it save you a lot of time, but you know what they say: time is money.


The Great Outdoors. Seriously, the world is at your disposal. Take advantage of it! Go for a bike ride, take a walk on the beach, have a picnic in the park – these are all readily available things for us to do for free. If you guys both like basketball, hit up an outdoor court and play one on one. People watching is one of the funniest things to do. You can also take pictures of the city, go window shopping at an outlet mall or visit historical landmarks of where you live. The possibilities are endless. So next time your sweetie tells you there’s nothing to do, tell him to take a hike. Literally.

Show Me What You Got. Use what you got. You’ve probably got a lot more “wealth” at your fingertips than you recognize. When you go anywhere ask if they have a student discount, then show them your awesome student ID (no matter if you graduated, as long as you still have it) and reap the benefits. Gift cards to restaurants are your best friend. The fiancĂ© had a gift card that he hadn’t used for a year. One night we didn’t feel like cooking (or spending money for that matter) and we used that gift card. It was one of the better dinners we’ve had and all we had to pay for was a tip. If you’re going out to a lounge or club, many times admission will be free before a certain time – be fashionably early in that case. Take advantage of daily specials and/or discounts. Got a friend or relative that works somewhere you’d love to go? Milk your connect. Just don’t abuse it.


You see, there’s so much to do at little to no cost. Dating in a recession doesn’t have to be in a rut. All you have to do is think, plan, maybe work a little and use what you got. After that, it’s smooth sailing.

Happy Dating!

Sunday, December 14, 2008

My Compatibilty With The Fiance

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Love Compatibility of Gemini with Libra

Geminis and Libras have a lot in common - you're both well-mannered and want to change the world. Although you may be a little faster with a clever reply, your Libra's sense of style is unmatched. Creativity is important to both of you, and you can find success and long-term happiness by working together in the arts - either visual arts, music or writing. You both have good taste, although your style is a little more eclectic than Libra's. If you moved in together, your living space would have an air of sophistication and harmony - just like your relationship.

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This thoroughly excites me. I already knew we were perfect for each other, but when MySpace gives you the go...you know you've got the real thing!

He he he he...

Happy Sunday.

Monday, July 21, 2008

Reasonable Doubt



Man and woman meet. Then they date. Simultaneously, they fall in love. Man proposes. Woman says yes because she thinks it’s the right thing to do.

They live unhappily ever after.

Love. That’s what all us emotion driven creatures, women, want. Naturally, by universal social norm the next step is marriage. But just because you love someone doesn’t mean you should marry them. He proposes and she declines even though she loves him. It doesn’t make sense.

Like the cynical Miranda of SATC said, “Why is that reasonable doubt can get you out of murder but in an engagement can turn you into the bad guy?”

Now, I’m not engaged but I have been proposed to once. I was 19, and I just broken up with my boyfriend at the time because after a year of dating I was tired of him wanting to break up every time he got mad at me. So, his attempt to get me back was proposing and giving me the choice of whatever ring I wanted. Now make no mistake, I loved this guy but this wasn’t the answer. We weren’t making it as boyfriend and girlfriend and chances were becoming husband and wife wouldn’t have made us more compatible. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t have even made it down the aisle – it would have been a very short lived engagement. I loved him, but even at 19 I knew that wasn’t enough.

Society puts us – women- between a rock and hard place: a ring and a vulnerable man on bended knee. How does one say no to that? It’s honestly the biggest set up ever. (Seldomly does the woman ever propose to the man and if she does…well that’s another article at another time.) That being said, men don’t feel this type of pressure. Sure it’s tough to propose to someone but so is having a menstrual cycle and bearing children. Recognize that love is not enough and that money isn’t everything. If you realize that you care about this person but just not enough to enter marriage with them, go ahead and break it off. Regardless of how much you love them, the chances of reconciliation of a successful and healthy relationship after turning down a marriage proposal are slim to none – no matter what a best friend, talk show host or a fortune cookie told you.

My advice to men: Get your timing right and most importantly, get the right woman. Make sure your lady wants to be asked in the first place. If not, you may feel rejection like you never felt before.

And to my fellow ladies: Really know what you want and OWN it. Just because you want to get married doesn’t mean you can handle a proposal. I think that’s why most women cry when they’re being asked.

It’s because they’re confused.

Look, some people are meant to date and some are meant to marry. Separate the two. (And if you are going to be with someone for 15 years, go ahead and marry them. It’s the respectable thing to do.) 50% of American marriages end up in divorce. Would the number of divorces have been lower had some of those women said ‘no’?

Take it from a woman who really wants to get married but will turn you down just to not become a statistic – even if she loves you. It’s not worth it, because I am. The question is: are you?

Woman gets divorce and moves on. She meets another man. Man and woman date. They fall in love. Man proposes and woman accepts because not only does man love her but is willing to work to keep them together.

And that’s how you live happily ever after.